Supposed to be the last Hurrah of Summer.
For me, it's the day before Jim's Memorial. Time to run out and get some knee-highs.
I've had to shop for an outfit to wear. I give such good advice to people--always have something in your closet to wear to such an occasion. Only, with all the weight I have gained, none of them fit.
So, over the past couple of days, I've been to the Outlet Mall, Ross, and Goodwill, to try and find something "suitable." I must have tried on thirty outfits. I couldn't help wondering (sometimes aloud) how I could possible have let myself put on so much weight! It is truly unbelievable that I should wear a 14! Well, with the aid of a "body shaper" (read: girdle), I could squeeze into some 12s.
I finally, at Goodwill, found a pants suit that looks very "Judi Dench."
I refuse to wear black.
Even more expense for you, Ronni. I would be in exactly the same position.
ReplyDeleteWhat colour is the pants suit?
Good luck tomorrow.
ReplyDeleteI thought of something to tell Brendan, to get him to the memorial- Jim didn't want a memorial so going is sort of a protest. Tell him Jim would be pissed if he could see everyone going against his wishes. Brendan is angry with Jim, with no recourse, because he is gone. Sometime it helps to piss off the person who's pissed you off, even if they never know. He's a stubborn teenager, appealing to his anger might work better than appealing to his more sympathetic emotions.
ReplyDeleteRonni,
ReplyDeleteYou can't be that fat if you are in 14s. It's simply that you have been exceedingly thin as far as I can tell from your early snapshots.
I wish I'd known as I have 14s that I am not using,no special reason-yeah that's the ticket.
My heart will be with you tomorrow. I hope that Brendan will decide to go and is aware that what he decides can never be changed and that he will be at peace with either option.
I know that getting through tomorrow will be very difficult, but it is just another step to put behind you.
ReplyDeleteBrendan will decide what is best for him, but I believe he will go in support of his Mother if nothing else.
Ronni, you will be in my thoughts tomorrow evening.
ReplyDeleteI hope Brendan will decide to go to be there for you.
Ronni, you will continue to be in my thoughts and prayers. I wish I could say something more than I love you and I'm here.
ReplyDeleteThe pants suit is a light moss/sage green, and the jacket is a print with soft flowers.
ReplyDeleteYou are in my prayers, Ronni. I'm sure you'll look fine.
ReplyDeleteJudi Dench is so elegant, except you are younger and thinner. I'm sure you will look completely appropriate and dignified. I like what Chandra says regarding Brendan, giving him a way to stay true to his feelings (I don't blame him!). I also like what Peggy says how he cannot ever change his decision once it's made. I hope he goes with you and stands strong by your side. I'll be thinking of you.
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good luck tomorrow, ronni.
ReplyDeletei wish you well and will be thinking of you, brendan and the girls.
Excellent advice, Chandra.
ReplyDeleteThe outfit seems perfect, Ronni. It may sound trivial to some how we women agonize over appropriate apparel, but it's impotant to show respect by our choice.
I also dislike wearing black unless it's for an older generation.
Thinking of you today and tomorrow.
Love,
Robin
Thank you all for your good wishes. I am going in to work in the morning, but will probably take off early. I still have not tried on the outfit with the shoes...
ReplyDeleteIt is untoward to have to go to work tomorrow Ronni. I suppose that Brendan HAS to go to school tomorrow.
ReplyDeleteCome on girl, he does not have to and it would probably be best for you not to go to work. Please, give yourself a break tomorrow.
I am shaking my head here. Bach undt forth. Stop this carousel and get off. Merde alors. I do not buy into that necessity Ronni. Regard yourself and your needs and please regard the needs of those who are depending on you to be there. You chose to have this memorial service. The least you can do is to give it your full attention. Merde and merde again. I think that I am a wee bit disappointed in your decision. Why have this memorial at all? He did not want it. Now you are putting yourself through the wringer to be there? I do not accept that attitude. Either you are there or you are not there. This is not about Brendan. He is conflicted and so are you. I am sorry to be so brutal, but this is what I see and what I say. Shoot me.
Betty is giving me the same harangue, Moi! I may call in. It's the costume shop, not the sangwidges, so I will call Ramona and see if she really needs me tomorrow.
ReplyDeleteI am about to call Betty again, or at least the foam number that she gave to moi the other night. I thought I would hold off for a few daisies, but Vernoica Prior, you leave moi speechless.
ReplyDeleteDo what's right for you, Ronni. Just don't try to do too much.
ReplyDeleteI'm thinking of you.
moi I am at ronni's.
ReplyDeletebetty
So betty, call my sail foam...805 441-2137 and then I suppose you are supposed to burn it. It does not matter if you do or you don't. Just call my sail please
ReplyDeleteI am glad that you are there. My offer still stands and the cell phone is accurate and shoot Ronni, you don't have to delete it, as if I am not listening for it, I would never even hear it. Deaf here.
ReplyDeleteI am not being rude Ronni. You know that what I said is the real truth.
No work tomorrow.
I agree with Harriet. It's all about being present. It's all about experiencing the full court press.
ReplyDeleteAll this evasion, deflection, distraction, business is just diluting the issue.
I agree. No dilutions. Take it full face.