I've been asked, in reference to spousal murder, "Why do women persist in marrying these guys?"
I referred to the "Cinderella Syndrome." All the stories we are told from a very young age end with the prince and princess living happily ever after, and those who oppose the marriage dancing in red hot shoes until they die, or some such. That, and the fact that we are supplied with an endless number of baby dolls, from the time our little hands can grasp them. I have noticed that Latinas call their tiny girls, "Mama," or "Mamacita," as a nickname or term of endearment. The brainwashing starts early.
Then, there's that whole "Ophelia" thing (can't remember the title or author, but it was required reading for teachers a few years ago), which explored the problems that occur when girls hit puberty and hormones kick in, totally messing up the well-grounded understanding that parents have worked on through the childhood years. Suddenly, it's more important to have cleavage than good grades. Parents take second place to peer pressure.
It becomes important to a girl's self-image to be able to out-stubborn her parents, and the battleground is frequently a boy.
People, we have GOT to find a way to get around this. More and more of our daughters are dying at the hands of the ones who promised to love, honour and cherish them.
Boys lie; girls cry.
Any and all ideas, insights and suggestions are welcome.