For a short while, back in the day, I dated one of those guys who checks the tire treadmarks in the driveway to see if somebody has been to your house while he was gone. His name was Jude.
I've always been a social drinker...happy to have a couple of beers and play a game of pool in a bar, especially one of those that has a 100 Beers Club. You put your name on a menu, and cross off the beers as you try them, and when you've tried 100 different ones, they give you a T-shirt and invite you to a party on Labour Day. It took me over a year to get my T-shirt. Theater members used to frequent one such bar after shows, back in the day.
At the Labour Day party, the manager would gather the 100 Club members together and take a group picture. One year, there was a sizeable theater contingent in the center of the picture, and, sitting side by side were my husband (long before he became my husband) and myself.
Jude wanted to go to my hangout, so we went there. He saw the picture, and became agitated (read "ballistic"), so we left. He had a new pickup truck, and we headed out east on Hwy 79, and took a right turn onto CR 122. He was heading for the little road that used to be CR 122, and goes across the creek at an old low-water crossing.
He missed.
He turned left off 122 too soon, and wound up hung on the train tracks, with both axles resting on one of the rails. I don't really think he was all that drunk, he was just so mad he didn't care. We tried to get the truck off the tracks, but our efforts were futile.
Then, we heard the train whistle. He dragged me into the truck and locked the doors. Fortunately, the train was still a good way off, and I had plenty of time to get out. He did not have automatic door locks, thank goodness, and I fled the truck. He stayed inside until the train was really close, and then leapt free. The train totalled the truck, and finally stopped a mile or so down the road. Nobody was hurt, but Jude did get arrested for being drunk and disorderly.
Just your basic doomed relationship.
I've heard of some bad dates, but having a train total your date's truck ranks right there with the worst of them. The word you picked sounds appropriate: "doomed"
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To Love, Honor and Dismay
Yup. Six months of that and I was done, followed by a stint in the battered women's shelter. He stalked me for a while, but the only thing he ever actually did was try and run me off the highway when he saw me about two years later.
ReplyDeleteI had been rather naive, and didn't believe anyone could actually behave like that.
Good Lord, Ronni. I'm so glad you're rid of that toxic entity.
ReplyDeleteI don't think anyone wants to believe someone could really be that way.
You aren't "dating" when you have that kind of relationship.
ReplyDeleteYou're a hostage.
Pretty much. He wanted to get married after the first date. He wanted me to quit doing theater. He wanted me to quit my job and stay home.
ReplyDeleteI had never been involved with somebody like that, and couldn't believe he was for real.
I even dragged him to a counsellor a couple of times.
what a story!
ReplyDeleteLOL. That relationship was, erm, a train wreck.
Glad you're here, Ronni!
Yes...yes, it was. Thanks for pointing that out! LOL!
ReplyDeleteGeez, Ronni! That is one Mega Maniac.
ReplyDeleteSounds too much like my ex-husband, the jealousy and need to control. Mine like to use his hands and fists on my neck and face.
Somehow, he got a kick out of seeing what I would use for an excuse at work to explain away my black eyes.
Your entry reminded me how much I despise that POS!
Thankfully, he loves living in Canada and nowhere near me. He used to stalk me, too. Until my 6'4" brother found out about it! Ha! All bullies are cowards.
It never got that far, but probably would have if the relationship had continued. Glad you got loose, Mgt. The thing about these guys is that they have lo little self-worth that the don't value those who love them. It always surprises them that somebody else does.
ReplyDeleteYou never told me he LOCKED YOU IN THE TRUCK!!! I wish you had let me kill him.
ReplyDeleteDid I tell you that Andrew was outside my store last week when Kase101 was giving away concert tickets? I was freaked out!
That entire family needs to be taken out of the gene pool. Seriously.
OMG! He's still around?
ReplyDeleteI saw Jude's sister (can't remember her name) and Philip a few years ago. Philip looked like Lynn's son, Eric did when he was all Jenco jeans and spiked hair.
Andrew and Philip are Jude's sons.
Was Andrew that recongizeable when you haven't seen him in 11 years?