BlakPijeon Music: How many times must I be hurt by two-faced individuals? Their numbers are increasing and sadly, are become more common in society.
5:11 PM Dec 23rd from txt
I wonder about the pain that poor Raven has to suffer. You do remember him, right? Soccer player...embezzled money from the sporting goods store for which he worked...nice wife (Janet)...baby...North Carolina. Does any of this ring a bell? He says he went to a soccer game, and when he came home...you guessed it. Janet was dead in their bedroom, and the baby was crying in his crib. Did you also guess that Janet was pregnant? You would be correct.
Though named a Person of Interest in the investigation into Janet's death, he never quite made the grade to Suspect, and moved to Utah with his son. And remarried. Last May, wife #2, Vanessa Pond, traveled to NC to be interviewed by local police and media.
The marriage lasted 2 1/2 months. In fact, they met, got engaged, got married and she dumped him in a little over a year. Vanessa had some interesting things to say about her husband, here (http://www.wral.com/news/local/story/5138321/) and here (http://www.ncwanted.com/unsolved/story/5130124/)
So many red flags; so little time!
1. Vanessa Pond and Raven Abaroa met in early December of 2007 and were engaged six months later, on Mother’s Day.
He rushed her. There is no way you can learn enough about a person in six months.
2. As the wedding approached, Vanessa said, Raven’s behavior shifted. He became violent.
He thought he was sure of her, so he relaxed a bit and let her see how things would be. Of course, he convinced her it was an aberration, brought on by the stress of impending nuptuals...
3. When Vanessa found out that Raven’s first wife had been murdered, she wanted more information.
He didn't tell her. BIG RED FLAG! She found out some other way, and had to read up on line and watch interviews.
4. They decided to confront him directly. “It was a pretty point-blank question, but we’d been needing to know. Raven’s response to that was, ‘I loved my wife’… in a beating-around-the-bush kind of answer. It was never ‘yes’ or ‘no,’” JoDean said.
He couldn't give them a direct answer. I would have SO been postponing the wedding at that point!
5. For Randy, a retired police officer, Raven’s response was a red flag, but out of a desire to support his daughter, he gave Raven the benefit of the doubt.
Please, parents...don't EVER give a guy "the benefit of the doubt," when your daughter's safety is at risk! Yes, she might get mad at you, but she might be having second thoughts herself, and yours might be just what she needs to hear.
6. “He was very drunk, and he started talking about how mad he was after Janet died. And kept reiterating how mad he was after she died, just how mad,” Vanessa recalled. “Then he cuddled up close to me and said, ‘I promise I’ll never hurt you.’ And I didn’t know how to take that.”
This was on their honeymoon. I would have known how to take it! "I won't hurt YOU. SHE was a bitch and made me angry, but YOU won't do that. It was HER fault!"
(are we hearing that bell, yet?)
7. He would often try to convince Vanessa that she was suicidal, that her behavior was erratic, that everything was her fault, she recalled.
Clumsy gaslighting, but gaslighting, just the same. If it's her fault, he's justified in his anger and violence.
8. “He could go back and forth within seconds and he would say the most horrible things and then moments later, act as if nothing had happened,” she said.
Because he has no feelings, he just says whatever, and it means nothing to him.
9. And he was controlling. Vanessa said he monitored her computer use, checked her phone, always knew what she was doing and who she was calling.
Flag is flapping in gale!
10. The Pond family recalled a time they attended one of Raven’s soccer games. He was red-carded and thrown out of the game for stomping his cleats into the back of a player who had fallen and was on his knees. Sitting on the sidelines, JoDean recalled, “he looked totally relaxed and he was chuckling and he said, ‘that’s retribution.’”
If a soccer player got stomped in the back with cleats, did Janet get stabbed? Just how much more retribution had been "earned" by a wife who tried to saddle him with a second child?
11. “He had me convinced that everyone was trying to frame him… that everyone was out to get him, that he was the poor victim,” she said. “In his own world, he’s above everyone else and he can do no wrong. He’s so above everyone and everything, the law included.”
Which circles us back to his "tweet:"
"How many times must I be hurt by two-faced individuals? Their numbers are increasing and sadly, are become more common in society."
Anyone considering marriage, or even dating somebody, needs to do a background check and pay attention to what they find!