Another Point of View

I received this in an email last night.

Dear Ronnie
I have been a silent, but loyal, reader of your blog for almost a year now. I found you through Lisa's Life, I actually live across town from her...well I did, I'm out in Brighton. Your post today hit me so hard, that I felt I needed to break my silence...I am Native American, from a reservation in Wisconsin. My people have a different view of death than most cultures. For us, the process of death is made up of seven stages, in order for the person to pass on to "heaven", the "happy hunting grounds" etc..., there is a waiting period of one full year. In that year, there are opportunities to make amends for wrongs that were committed in this life. In order to move on successfully, all of the wrongs must be righted. Whether it is saving a stray puppy from being run over, or letting loved ones know the reasons for their death, these must be done. I am honestly not writing this to bring out bad memories, or to sadden you, but with the hopes that this will help in some small, minute way. Be assured that Jim probably is with you right now. The connection the two of you had was strong enough for all of your readers to feel. In my tradition, now would be the time for you to find out what he feels you need to know. It is not as hard as it seems. If you can get a hold of some sweet grass, burn a little before you go to bed every night, and ask Jim what he has to say. More than likely, you will have an answer in your dreams. It might not be right away, the more you believe he can answer you, the more likely you will receive an answer. My Dodo (grandmother) passed away almost three years ago, after a very long illness. I was the last person she came to. I wanted to hear from her so badly that she couldn't communicate with me, but when I had finally given up, she came to me. I know I am rambling a bit now, my heart aches for you, and I hope that somehow, from my rambling, you can find some sort of help.

I asked her a couple of questions, and she answered:

If you can't find sweet grass, dried sage works just as well. They both act as a calming agent, and an opener for your spiritual side.

I was taught dream control from birth, I tend to use a dream journal with an alarm clock set for odd hours of the night, it sounds weird, but after hitting the snooze button, I can pick memories from the previous dream and continue it into the next dream.

I am sure you didn't run Jim off. He has to be fully aware of your anger and pain. More than likely, he's trying everything he knows to get your attention!! He will be patient, he cares for you deeply, and I'm sure he wants you to be at ease with his decision. The main thing is for you to have no guilt or remorse, he needs that to successfully move on.

If you think any of this can help others, please do pass it on. Before we are born into this life, my traditions tells that we determine the events that will occur in our lives, whether they are tragic or happy, they are events we feel will allow us to grow spiritually. When we are on the right path, we tend to experience deja vu, that is our spirit letting us know that we are indeed on the right path. We also arrange seven "exit paths", places in our lives where death is an option. While at times, these exit paths seem so very selfish and hurtful, for some reason, known only to that person, they are needed at that time.

It is kinda hard to condense this here for you, as I think of ways to express things, I can send it along to you if you like.

Thank you so much! This helps a lot...