http://www.freep.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=/20070311/NEWS04/703110593
"I can't imagine that she saw any of this coming. Because she would have taken those kids and ran."
A quote from Melissa Hanson, a home-town friend of Tara's, in the linked article.
There's lots of fodder in this article for those who want to warn young girls off such relationships.
I'm sure there were a lot of things, over the years, that gave Tara a bad feeling about her marriage and her husband, but she did not think it would go so far.
It really comes back to Rule #1, doesn't it?
"FIRST LIE, SAY GOODBYE.*"
Of course, this only works if you remove the blinders and RECOGNIZE the lie.
*Coined and copyrighted by Loretta Dillon, author of "Stone Cold Guilty" and the blog, "Observations of a Misfit" http://www.misfitting.com.
Hi Ronni...wish I had seen this article you wrote called "Red Flags" when I was in high school 30 years ago. My terribly abusive relationship (more emotionally and sexually than physically at first) lasted for 5 years until I was able to break up with him and married someone else, a GOOD man. That violent idiot kept phoning me, abusing me verbally even 5 or 6 years after I was married to someone else! It took me that long to finally stand up for myself and say "ENOUGH! LEAVE ME ALONE"! And yes, once he broke into my home and I was very nearly killed and so was my husband to-be.
ReplyDeleteThere is a book coming out soon, and I will be promoting it here, about just that issue. How to spot the jerks before hooking up permanently with one.
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