The way to get a really cool guy is to not need one.
Sounds like a riddle, doesn't it?
The fact is that you don't need a man to be happy. Consider this: you came into this life alone, and you will leave it alone. It behooves you to live it alone.
Get an education. Decide what you want to do with your life. Pursue your interests. Be strong. Visualize your life, way on into old age. Picture where you would like to live, what work you want to do, what hobbies you want to indulge in. Start working NOW to make all this happen. Does your chosen career path require college? Work very hard in school to get the best grades you possibly can. That's how to get scholarships and financial aid. The purpose of High School is to give you a smattering of knowledge. Hopefully, it will give you an idea of what you would like to learn. You can spend the rest of your life doing that. For now, get good grades. Focus on that, and not on the clothes, boys, gossip, and general crap that high schoolers will try to tell you is important. You know what's important, and that's not it. If, by the time you have graduated from high school, you know what you want to do for a career, you are one up on most of those kids. Pick something you like. You don't have to do it for the rest of your life; just long enough to get some money ahead and then decide what you want to do after that.
Focus on what you want to do.
A successful young woman, who stands tall and strides through life with confidence, knowing where she is going, attracts a much better kind of man than the one who has to check out her reflection in every store window she passes.
Trust me. It took me until I was nearly 50 to figure that one out. Don't waste that much of your life kissing frogs.
I love it! Wonderfully put, and sage advice for women of any age. Understanding that no one can make us feel inferior without our permission (I think it was Bess Truman who said it first) is part of getting to know and like ourselves. I believe that in order to have genuine relationships with anyone, you must like and respect yourself first. Only then will your life be filled with people who truly like and respect you too.
ReplyDeleteBesides that, you can find yourself way too busy to 'need" a man. When you "want" to make time in your busy schedule for one, you know you're on the right track.
ReplyDelete60 Minutes Correspondent, Andy Rooney (CBS)summed it up quite well at the end of a recent commentary:
ReplyDelete"As I grow in age, I value women over 40 most of all...
For every stunning, smart, well-coiffed, hot woman over 40, there is a bald, paunchy relic in yellow pants making a fool of himself with some 22-year old waitress. Ladies, I apologize. For all those men who say, 'Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?', here's an update for you. Nowadays 80% of women are against marriage. Why? Because women realize it's not worth buying an entire pig just to get a little sausage!"
That is hilarious! And so true!
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